Are you being Diplomatic or just a people pleaser?

Are we going to talk about Diplomacy and how it seems alot like People pleasing sometimes? Or am I just getting it all misunderstood.

Finding middle ground or the safest way to say or do certain things to accommodate all parties involved can be a pretty hard task to do. You're caught between trying not to hurt people's feelings and still conveying your point. A case of "Letting down softly ".

To be honest, I don't want to always let people down softly. I'd rather they hit rock bottom, spilt a knee and break some bones when I make decisions but my good conscience won't let me to. I care too much unfortunately.

So instead, I choose diplomacy. Calculated words, rehearsed response. A very diluted version of the "F*** you and your opinion " I'd soo love to say.

That way the person gets the impression that my intentions are not to harm or invalidate whatever they are going through and I'm just trying to make them see things from a different perspective.

Not everybody has this ability to be diplomatic. Although I understand that some things need to be dished out as hot and raw as they come, I don't support the use of insults or derogatory language to convey those messages.

You can still be firm and factual with your point or mode of address without being uncouth.  It doesn't make you less of a person or your point less important.  

Now that I think of it again, Diplomacy isn't being the least People Pleaser. You deciding to use kinder words to deliver your message doesn't mean you are conforming to others decisions or being swayed by their opinions. It's more of a case of you weighing a situation and coming to the conclusion that there is a better way to approach the issue on ground that would foster understanding rather than result in more conflict of interest.

It's just a matter of consideration and empathy... and well, common sense too.

Or don't you agree? Let's argue 👇