Self-esteem. Self Love.

22 Sept 2022
The whole idea of being “be-you-ti-ful” rests upon you doing just that: being you. 

Self-esteem refers to whether you appreciate and value yourself. Your self-esteem develops and changes as a result of your life experiences and interactions with other people. Self-confidence is your belief in yourself and your abilities. This can change depending on the situation. 

The whole idea of being “be-you-ti-ful” rests upon you doing just that: being you. That’s quite hard, I know. I pride myself on being myself, and occasionally, I struggle.
I struggle to get out of my head, I get caught up in other people’s perceptions, I experience self-doubt, I fear not being accepted or being judged if I am myself. It’s a crazy annoying, stupid process. And these struggles are especially pronounced if you’re trying to do something new, or make a change, or are venturing into uncharted waters.
Being yourself can actually be hard. We live in an era where we are being judged left and right. Criticism over the Internet is super easy because no one has to do it to your face. It’s a nonissue for people to type some random thing and hit post.

So, how can we move on from all the noise?
We all need reminders. No one is always on the “be you” train all the time. It’s not possible. I’m not saying that everyone is walking around faking it, but I am pointing out that we all have doubts, we all wonder, and those thoughts hold us back occasionally. To be you, authentically and all the time, means not to be bothered by anything happening outside of you. Yeah, it's much easier said than done and there’s a lot of self-confidence required.

But I would like to try to give suggestions on how you can remind yourself that to be you, is enough; that you don’t need the outside feedback and lack of feedback means nothing against you.

So, How Can You Remind Yourself that you are more?

🌻Leave Comparison Behind
We all compare ourselves to others, it's natural. However, stop. Don’t compare yourself to others. Doing so is a happiness killer, you’ll get nothing out of it, and you’ll lose focus of your path. Rather than compare, remind yourself that your path is different, and you’ll get to where you need to be in your time. You shouldn’t change or stop being yourself because you are trying to achieve what others have. You can still get there, it will just be on your path.

🌻Write down or rewrite how awesome you are.
I feel like what holds me back sometimes is that I forget what I have going for me. So, I make a list and I keep it. When I’m in an awful spot (lots of self-doubt, or feeling unaccomplished) I bring out that list and read it, and then add to it if need be. Trust me, this is not some arrogant exercise in boosting your ego. We are our worst enemies; unless you see yourself as the badass you already are, it’s really hard to hold your head up and let your true self shine through. This is basically the written version of self-affirmations.

🌻 Ignore the noise.
Along the same lines of not comparing yourself to others, we have got to stop worrying about what others think, and we need to stop listening to outside opinions about what we want to do. Is it important to get feedback and grow? Yes, of course, but we shouldn’t let outside noise bring us down, hold us back or deter us from our goals. More importantly, we shouldn’t stop being ourselves based on other people's opinions or expectations.

Another example from me, when I started baking, I got all kinds of comments from people on how “it wasn’t going to boom, almost everyone was into the baking thing, baking is stressful” etc. And that wasn’t said positively. I felt terrible for hearing that because it made me feel like what I was doing wasn’t good enough. True, I was a newbie, and so I did have no clue about numerous things, but the intent of my brand has not changed, neither has my purpose. As much as that feedback hurt, I kept going because I know what I wanted to accomplish.

On that note, I will add the last point for today.

🌻Re concentrate your focus
Stay focused on your goals. No matter what anyone says. Those goals are uniquely you. You may not get everyone’s support for them, but do you really need it? It’s nice to have cheerleaders in your corner, but what I’ve learned is that the more you try to do something new or different, the fewer people there will be who continue to applaud your efforts. I’ve also come to realize, that this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with their lack of understanding about what I’m trying to accomplish, and also a difference in priorities. And all of that is ok.

So, it’s ok. Let others think what they want, and let them have their opinions. Take from it what you will, but remember that your goals are your own, your path is yours; don’t let them go because they are a part of you and make you 'be you tiful' 

Don't ever forget that what you have is already outstanding.
And I want to say, “You help to make each day a special day by just you being yourself. There’s nobody else in the whole world who’s exactly like you.”

Remember, you're the best you can be.


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