How do you respond to inquisitive questions intelligently?

In one way or another, we are exposed to inquisitive questions that others throw at us, intentionally or unintentionally, and they cause us to feel embarrassed and upset because we do not want to answer and reveal something that we do not want to reveal. We become trapped between answering so as not to embarrass the questioner, or composing an unreal answer to silence him, or We act strictly to repel him and set some boundaries, which may cause problems in our relationships. Inquisitive questions do not necessarily have the intention of interfering in your life. They may be out of love and concern but you do not feel comfortable. Sometimes others do not know that this topic is sensitive to you, or they have the wrong idea about how close you two are. Regardless of the intention behind the question, the result is that you do not want to answer, and to avoid annoying questions, these are some methods that can help you get out of this dilemma, without embarrassing yourself or others. Don't leave room for questions If you know that you will meet a curious person at a family gathering, work colleague, or other gathering, do not give him the opportunity to continue talking and crowd you with his questions. Be prepared to say hello and leave quickly. If you can't escape, you can pretend to be busy with your phone or a book you are reading, and if that doesn't stop him, briefly answer some questions and shift your attention to something else. Answer only part of the truth If you have to fake an answer to escape a curious question, you may find yourself in a bigger dilemma, which is having to remember what you said in case the person asks you about something related to the same topic later. To avoid this, tell the truth, but only some of the truth. You can answer briefly and not reveal all the information. It will appear as if you answered, but in reality you did not reveal any information. For example, if a friend asked you why you were late to your friend's wedding, you could answer, "I had an appointment and I was unfortunately late." ...Tips for responding to curious people and their annoying questions If you cannot answer what is bothering you, you can change the course of the conversation with another topic (Shutterstock) General answer You can simply answer in general terms, for example, if someone comments on your weight and asks you why you are not losing some weight, you can answer "How nice of you to be worried about me, but don't worry I'm fine" or the famous question why you are late to have children, You can respond by saying, “Pray for us.” Change the course of the conversation If you are unable to answer the annoying question, you can change the course of the conversation and the confusion by opening another topic to escape the thorny area that you do not want to talk about, or shift your focus to something else by saying, “I feel thirsty, I will get a bottle of water,” for example. The questioner may feel that you are avoiding his question, and will not be happy with your action, but he will understand that you do not want to answer, and he will feel your discomfort, which is a less harmful method than being frank about your unwillingness to answer. Answer with a question This is another way to change the course of the conversation, which is to respond to the question by asking another question. When asked, “Why haven’t you found a bride for you yet?” you can respond, “In fact, I haven’t found a suitable girl, but tell me how you met your wife.” Lead the conversation Some people cannot stop talking, and do not know another way to interact with others. You may feel that the hairdresser is interrogating you, but in reality he is trying to communicate with you and this is his way. You do not have to listen to their conversations if you feel exhausted. You can express non-verbally your inability to speak, or you can lead the conversation and open up general topics that do not concern you, thus avoiding asking questions. “Because” is a magic answer The word “because” in the answer has a special power, and no matter what you say next, your answer suggests that it is an explanation and answer to the question asked. For example, if your coworker asks you why you took the day off, you can respond, “Because I wanted to take the day off.” Attributing success to your efforts always causes you to lose well-deserved co-workers Leading the conversation, opening up general topics that do not concern you, and avoiding asking yourself questions (social networking sites) Have a saved answer ready to answer frequently asked questions If you encounter repeated questions about things you don't want to talk about, you can prepare a short, rote, socially acceptable answer to avoid feeling uncomfortable, and use it to respond to everyone. Express your discomfort Sometimes it is better to tell your questioner that you do not prefer to talk about a particular topic, so that he does not ask again. In this way, you are doing both of you a favor, and you can state this nicely without attacking the other. This method is not used in all situations, but you can balance things out and use it if you know that the questioner knows you and will understand your feelings without sensitivity, and respects your personal space. Use humor Humor helps you get out of difficult situations, although there is a possibility that the questioner will not understand your escape from his question, but it is a harmless way to repel curiosity and not embarrass the other person. For example, if someone asks you how much something you're wearing costs and you don't want to answer, you can jokingly answer, "Will you buy me another one?" Or he asked you about the delay in your marriage, you can reply, “I am still waiting for the prince who will ask to marry me on the white horse.”